God has taught me so much during our adoption process. When we began, we had it in our minds what the adoption would look like. The main issue in regards to this post is that we had no desire to have contact with the birth mother. I'm not saying we are now in a place where we would consider an open adoption, however, I have done a lot of thinking about birth mothers across the world who will face difficult decisions.
Have you ever sat and thought what it would feel like to be a young unmarried girl with no job and no hope for the baby growing inside you whom you didn't plan for? Let's say raising the baby yourself is not an option, for whatever reason. No matter which decision you chose, it would be a heart wrenching one. If it were me, no matter which road I took, I would need major counseling for the rest of my life. I could not imagine the guilt that would come from aborting a baby. Nor could I imagine the amount of sleepless nights wondering how my child is doing with his family. I would always wonder if he were happy and healthy.
I think it's easy for us to point fingers and say how much we oppose something as cruel as abortion. But that does not get us anywhere. As The Church, we need to provide more help to mothers who feel they cannot raise their babies themselves. God showed us himself that laws do not save people. They only show what sin is. We needed the Gospel to save us. And we need to share that same Gospel to those we've been pointing fingers at.
Don't misunderstand me either. I'm not out there proclaiming Christ like I should be. I am speaking to myself as much as I am speaking to anyone else. I just pray that all these thoughts and feelings are the first signs that God is going to use me in this area.